Four Rules To Become A Good Talker

It might happen that you are invited to a party but without knowing anyone except for the host. The other people talk and we feel embarrassed. For a lot of people, in particular the shiest ones, it is very difficult to socialize, especially after Covid-19 when we had to limit our contacts. It isn't as difficult as it seems to master a conversation and that can be a big advantage for us. 

But what do we have to do to become a chatterbox?

• NO FEAR

Overcoming embarrassment isn’t easy because it’s possible to make a bad impression, but we
have to come out of our "comfort zone". For example, if we decide not to go to that party, we’ll be excluded also from the conversation about that. A recent research has shown that when a person starts a dialogue with a stranger, he can notice that the companion is almost always happy to be engaged in conversation.
So… What do you have to lose?

• BE CURIOUS

To get a good result, you should avoid the usual expressions like: “How are you?” because they finish with a simple: “Fine, thanks”, but you should invite the interlocutor to express his/her opinion about something. You can also start with a compliment, but only if it is true.

• INQUIRE

It’s important to be well-informed about the latest events of many areas: for example sports or fashion… Of course it isn’t necessary to be an expert at everything, but only some superficial knowledge can be enough.

• LISTEN

To understand if the conversation is going well, you have to look at the reactions of your
interlocutor: his posture, his movement of the hands and his look. If you realize that your partner doesn’t like the subject, you'd better change it.

Chiara Pedrazzi